Q: Holidays are always awkward with my family. I’m the only one who has more than just my ears pierced and I feel like they’re always judging or criticizing my piercings. How do you deal with family drama? - Cara L.

A: Ugh, family drama really is the worst. And honestly, when certain relatives feel the need to make snarky comments about your piercings, it says way more about them than it does about you. People who pick at your style are usually dealing with their own insecurities, or they’re low-key jealous that you have the confidence to express yourself in ways they never could.

So next time Aunt Gladys makes another passive-aggressive comment at a family dinner, hit her with the world’s calmest energy and maybe even joke, “Want me to take you to get one too?” Don’t give her the reaction she’s fishing for. No drama, no emotions, no rise. When you stop feeding the negativity, people like that eventually get bored and move on.

Keep being you. You look amazing.

Q: What’s the one piercing people usually regret the most? I don’t want to get a piercing just to have to take it out.  - Priyanka G.

A: Honestly, the piercing people regret the most usually isn’t their nose, lip, or eyebrow. It’s the one they never got because they were scared of what people might think, or they psyched themselves out about the actual piercing process. Nothing stings quite like wishing you’d just gone for it.

If you’re worried about regretting a new piercing, try a little “test run.” Grab a cute bead or charm and stick it on with some skin-safe adhesive to see how it looks on your face or ear. It’s a super easy, zero-commitment way to figure out if the vibe matches your aesthetic before taking the plunge.

Your body, your style—don’t let fear be the thing you remember most. Happy piercing!

Disclaimer: Body Candy is only here to give you fun and helpful advice and information when it comes to getting pierced. Always consult a professional piercer to make sure a new piercing is right for you!